+ “Example is not the main thing in influencing others. It is the only thing.” ~ Albert Schweitzer

I often speak of three things that I believe are significant in helping young people grow - 1. Having a clear Purpose and passion in life, 2. Empowering environment, which includes people and places, and 3. A critical friend or mentor.

Have you ever pondered how many people there are in your life that have had some level of influence upon you to help you become who you are today?

I’d like you to consider these four tenets when you consider a critical friend or mentor to support you in seeing your possibility:

1. Is a positive Role Model. An individual who exemplifies in word and action what it means to be an ethical, responsible, and compassionate human being. Someone who has a reputation for character and solid principles you wish to emulate.

2. Is a skilled listener. They really get to know you – your context, gifts, strengths, fears and challenges, your individual personality and your aspirations. They are a trusted ally, or advocate, who works with you and on behalf of the your best interests and goals.

3. Is a facilitator. They are a thoughtful person who provides access to people, places, experiences, and resources outside your normal environment. Allowing you to develop a diverse range of perspectives, through real encounters, that challenge and provide alternatives.

4. Is unapologetically honest. A person that doesn’t just encourage you, but will also tell you the blunt truth when you are moving in the wrong direction. They become an important sounding board who will help you with your struggles and help you to clarify your principles and beliefs.

The right critical friend or mentor will help you discover and develop the true possibility within yourself to succeed in all aspects of life.

Who are you allowing to influence you and are they worthy of that influence?

Instead of pairing up with someone who will reinforce your weaknesses, find someone who will challenge you to acquire new strengths through new horizons. You decide.

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+ To Risk

"To laugh is to risk appearing a fool,
To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.
To reach out to another is to risk involvement,
To expose feelings is to risk exposing your true self.

To place your ideas and dreams before a crowd is to risk their loss.
To love is to risk not being loved in return,
To live is to risk dying,
To hope is to risk despair,
To try is to risk failure.

But risks must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.

The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing, is nothing.
He may avoid suffering and sorrow,
But he cannot learn, feel, change, grow or live.

Chained by his servitude he is a slave who has forfeited all freedom.
Only a person who risks is free.

The pessimist complains about the wind;

The optimist expects it to change;
And the realist adjusts the sails.”

~ William Arthur Ward

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+ Today the world lost it’s smile.

"I use to think the worst thing in life was to end up alone, it’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people that make you feel all alone" ~ Robin Williams

So sad that someone who brought such joy and laughter to so many others was suffering so much. Depression is real. If you are depressed please know that you are not alone. And to my friends, never be afraid to reach out to someone you may think is struggling.

I’m sad to read the news of Robin Williams passing. A great artistic talent of our time. His genius will be missed. Thank you Mr Williams for sharing your undeniable talent and gift with us all.

"Carpe, carpe diem, seize the day boys, make your lives extraordinary!"

O Captain! My Captain! Our fearful trip is done. The ship has weather’d every rack, the prize we sought is won. You were extraordinary Mr. Williams.

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+ “You cannot get through a single day without having an impact on the world around you. What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you want to make” ~ Jane Goodall

Who pushes your thinking? Who challenges you to be your best? Who gets you out of your comfort zone? What difference will you make today?

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+ What turns a walking holiday into a pilgrimage?

In late September/early October I’ll be participating in the Camino Pilgrimage “The Way of St. James” from Sarria to Santiago, Spain. The call of the Camino is to move beyond that which separates us and to find that common bond, that spiritual thread which binds us all together.

I believe we are all fundamentally spiritual beings on a human journey. It’s time to create your own ‘way’ through discovery, movement and listening to your inner truth.

So what weight are you carrying on your journey? Pilgrimage is a great metaphor for life. What are you carrying that is unnecessary?

Each of us will read the signs and interpret these to develop our own future scenarios.

Along every path of enquiry and discovery there comes a point that requires a leap of faith. You reach that point where you have to let go of the safety of the familiar and comfortable and dive into the unknown, with nothing but your inner truth, your faith to support you.

Life itself is a sacred journey. By developing an attitude of gratitude for all learning experiences along your paths, we’ll come closer to creating your own meaning, as you discover you are never alone.

Give yourself over to the spirit of the journey, a combination of the beauty of the outer landscape and listening to the beauty from within.

Pilgrimage can form and inform your personal theology. Pilgrimage can awaken the spiritual from within. Opening the opportunity for real renewal. As the true temple is not a structure, it’s holiness lies at one’s inner altar, which the structure is built.

Create opportunities to worship and value your altar from within.

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5 Things a Good Man Does and 5 Things He Doesn't - f

+ A good man doesn’t objectify women. He knows the difference between appreciating beauty and reducing a person to the sum of her parts. And he teaches it to his children, too ~ Thomas G. Fiffer

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+ Stop waiting for Friday, for Summer, for someone to fall in love with you, for life to happen to you. HAPPINESS is achieved when you stop waiting and make the most of the moment you’re in NOW.

"Successful people do not have a part-time mindset nor a full-time mindset, but a lifetime mindset" ~ Orrin Woodward.

Change almost never fails because it’s too early. It almost always fails because it’s too late.

"Whether you think you can or think you can’t you’re right" ~ Henry Ford

If you subscribe to the notion that we are what we repeatedly do then never allow waiting to become a habit. No matter how slow you go, you are still lapping everybody on the couch.

And don’t tell me you don’t have time, that old chestnut is far too convenient. It’s about making time to attend to yourself that matters. Never compromise on investing in self.

Live your dreams and take risks. Life is happening now.

"A year from now you will wish you hard started today" ~ Karen Lamb

So what at are you waiting for? Make your own meaning NOW. Reignite your fire.

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"Rebellion is when you look society in the face and say I understand who you want me to be but I’m going to show you who I actually am."
Anthony Anaxagorou

+ “Remember no one can make you feel inferior without your consent” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt

I subscribe to the Christian belief of the Kingdom of God. Which for me is fundamentally about an attainment of hope. Hope in peace, harmony and humanity. You see I believe in the inherent goodness of mankind. I don’t live with rose coloured glasses, but I need to hold on to this belief in my work, in my world.

This week I encountered some personal challenges that speak to the heart of my being and professional integrity. An individual, who lacks the courage to put their name to the issue, cut me to my core. Their false and baseless accusation impacted dramatically on my self belief and jaded my belief in the inherent goodness of others. For the first few days a range of emotions ran through my mind - hurt, anger, disbelief and I even asked whether it’s all actually worth it.

I’m the one charged with the responsibility of asking the hard questions via my role as Deputy Principal. Questions that make some people uncomfortable. This can make me unpopular in the eyes of some. Nonetheless I am unapologetic that the ethics of my vocation should never be compromised, ensure the dignity of each young person in our care. This is my commitment to tomorrow’s generation.

What people need to understand is I don’t seek affirmation or acknowledge for my work. I am remunerated for my vocation. And my real reward is knowing that I have added value and enriched the life of someone else.

I don’t care for lies. I don’t care for gossip and rumor mongering. That’s the domain of the small minded or jealous amongst us. Having said that the actions of one individual have made me question who I am. How dare you ask me to be anything but who I am. I will never apologize for being me. You should apologize for asking me to be anything else.

After my initial reaction and with some time to reflect, I’ve came to the realization that this individual suffers more from imagination than from reality. That they need to focus more on being comfortable in their own skin and live in a world free from the vices hate and envy. I pray that they can find forgiveness in their heart for their actions and their personal shortcomings so they too can strive for real happiness.

So today I have chosen to rise above the issue and free myself from resentment and not allow the pettiness of one impact on my life’s mission to date.

I’m committed to living my best possible life, are you? I’ve always believed self-belief is crucial to our confidence. So I encourage each of you never to allow another to make you feel inferior. I’m unwavering in my resolve to live my life making positive and active choices, on my terms. I define my own meaning without risk of fear or favour.

Continue to live a life worth people talking about. Each of us is responsible for creating our own meaning and actively participating in life to discover our true possibly. And remember life is too short to be anything but happy. Falling down is a part of life, getting back up is living.

Never allow others to compromise your inner truth. Never be lesser than who you are. You decide.

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+ Love
The most useful asset of a person is not a head full of knowledge but a heart full of love, with ears open to listen, and hands willing to help.

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